Ok mommas. I know you have your traditions and your gifts. You know, the stuff you dig and are really good at? Maybe you are the best tooth fairy ever or your breakfast table is decked out every Valentines day with heart shaped pancakes. Maybe you make all your teacher appreciation gifts from scratch or sew your kids clothes or decorate their rooms like they stepped out of a Pottery Barn kids catalogue. Maybe you love to volunteer at your kids school or make late night chocolate chip cookies. Maybe you love to take walks or go on family vacations or sit and color an amazing creation. I can’t even draw a star. For real.
We all have our thing. In a Pinterest obsessed DIY doing culture, it’s easy to start feeling as though your thing isn’t good enough and you need to learn to churn your own butter. Let’s just dispell all that as pure crap shall we? Because what you do IS cool. It IS awesome. Even if you can’t pin it to a Pinterest board.
The “I’m not’s” or “I cant’s” or “I dont’s” can easily take over the way we think. I know they do for me. She’s so good at this or that and all I do is….fill in your blank.
I’m going to fill you in on a little secret….
It’s just a lie.
Women believe the lie. We fall for it every day. What I do isn’t good enough.
Becoming a mom can magnify insecurities can’t it? Maybe you have a friend who organizes her playroom like it’s a school room, and you aren’t sure you’ve ever sang the ABC’s to your 3 year old. It’s cool. Promise. They survive. They learn it. Maybe you are a learn on the go mom like me. You talk about cool stuff in the car or over donuts or while you are on road trips. Maybe you don’t have organized times for certain things. You’re the wing it type.
Maybe you feel like you just stink at stuff. It’s cool. I do too. But with age and more kids and more experience on this ride called motherhood, I’m learning to be ok with the stuff I stink at. Because there are things I’m pretty good at too. Just like you. And if we didn’t all stink at something we’d all be perfect, and who wants that pressure? Not this girl.
Maybe you are organized and that’s totally your thing. You don’t need 1900 lists on your kitchen counter and can keep it all “upstairs”. I could learn a thing or two from you. Maybe you work full time(I have such mad respect for you working mom, you have no idea) and don’t have time for traditions that suck a lot of your time. That’s ok. It can be the simplest of things. Kid’s aren’t picky ya’ll. They want some attention and to know they are loved. Boundaries and discipline and fun and laughter. Cakes, no cakes, easter baskets, no easter baskets. Party favors at birthday parties(what mom decided that was a good idea anyway? I have a few words for her) and all the other mess that we feel like we need to do can get in the way and make things really complicated.
Keep it simple. Love your kids.
I think you’re probably catching my drift yes? We all have our gifts. If all moms were good at the same things, it would be kind of boring don’t you think? We need bakers and organizers and free spirits. We need teacher’s and type A’s and type B’s, C’s, and D’s. It makes parenting fun if you can learn to enjoy the gifts you have and let the other mom’s enjoy theirs without the thief of comparison.
When Jake(our oldest) was a baby I decided I was going to make his birthday cake every year. I loved to bake but didn’t really know what the heck I was doing when it came to decorating cakes. Remember I mentioned I can’t even draw a decent star? Yea. It’s true. I’m not artistic and I don’t consider myself a creative. I’m a sporty outdoorsy girl. So, cakes. I decided it would be my thing.
I started out with a few idea’s from the internet and it morphed into being able to do a little more every year. Then we added a couple extra kids to the mix and it got even more fun. The night before their party I’ll stay up really late decorating their cake and they run down in the morning like Christmas to see it.
I don’t say all this to make you feel like I’m supermom and you stink. You don’t stink. My encouragement to you today is to find a thing you love and are good at, or have to teach yourself to do, and do it with and for your kids. It can be super simple and be something they carry with them forever. Traditions are awesome and don’t have to involve taking out a second mortgage on your house. It can be affordable and enjoyable and it doesn’t have to be EVERYTHING. You won’t be good at everything. So, let yourself off the hook momma and just enjoy your kids and the gifts you have to use on them. You are their mom for a reason. A purpose. God chose you. Not that chick over there. You. So take advantage and enjoy the ride.
On Monday Jake turns 9 ya’ll. 9. How did that happen? Sprinkled cupcakes and diapers and thumb sucking to Ranger’s cakes and sleepover’s and having to bath daily or he stinks to deodorant(yes ya’ll…DEODORANT. What the what?!?!). It goes by in a flash. So, because I procrastinate and my husband told me NOT TO GET DISTRACTED when he left 30 minutes ago with Lila so I could decorate Jake’s cake and clean, I promptly sat down at the computer to talk to you. It’s what I do. And I’m sure whatever you do is perfectly ok too.
A sweet reader asked for some pics of the cakes I’ve done for the kids. So here you go Rae!!! Again, this is about finding your thing. But, if you want to make cakes your thing and don’t know where to start, maybe this will help.
This is where it all started ya’ll. Mediocre messy looking cupcakes that not one kid complained about. This was perfectly acceptable, but I had an itch to kick it up a notch.
Happy Saturday friends. Hope you enjoy the rest of your weekend!!!
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